When To Break Up: Here’s How to Do It

Breaking up is no walk in the park. Sometimes, it’s hard to gauge whether the relationship is in a rough patch or your relationship turned into a flaming pile. The journey to peace and joy can be quite a ride.

Fortunately, we’ve got you! We’re not Jesus or God, who might have the power to solve all your relationship problems, but what we do have is this extensive list of tips to help you figure out if your relationship is something that you should leave.

In this blog, we’ll talk about the signs when you should leave your partner and tips to do it!

Kiss, Breakup, Kiss Cycle

Let me guess: you’re one of those couples who kiss, fight, break, and kiss again. In a relationship, 1 + persons are responsible for the conflict, and there will be two sides to any problem, but if you keep track of who is “right,” that can set down the grounds for blaming and resentment down the line.

When your relationship is unpredictable, it’s hard to be happy and even harder to find happiness when stability is affected. In middle school? That’s acceptable, but when you’re harder, those are red flags, honey.

When They Won’t Compromise

A lot of conflicts occur within relationships. However, these are caused by differences in values and personal preferences. Take note: These are usually tiny matters, but they can spell out big differences within your relationship.

They are a note that you two might not be compatible.

For example, you like Sports betting, and they don’t; they want you to quit it, and you don’t want to. That, my dear, is a possible sign that you might want to talk to your partner about how much sports betting means in your life and if they’re willing to compromise on that.

Furthermore, if your partner doesn’t have the same values as you do, then down the line, you might either compromise or separate due to this incompatibility.

Abuse

The hard line to outright break up with your partner is abuse. There is more than one kind of abuse.

These are:

• Physical abuse: Your partner hits you physically.
• Mental/Emotional: Your partner isolates you from other people; they also patronize and infantilize you.
• Financial abuse: Your partner is taking money from you or preventing you from having access to finances.

Of 4 women, one of them experienced intimate partner violence. A lot of victims tend to stay in these relationships because their partners have some positive traits. However, getting out can be challenging, and it needs to be done.

It’s One-Sided

If you’re the one who’s making the effort, then that’s enough reason for you to leave. Healthy and happy relationships don’t work like this. A happy and healthy relationship requires both of you to exert effort in your relationship.

Distance

If your partner and you are distant and there’s a weird rift, then that’s a sign that there’s distance in the relationship. A lot of couples stay together because of sentimental memories from when they first met. However, if you’re disconnected, then you may want to consider moving on.

Have you felt a rift between you that can’t be explained? Has it become increasingly difficult to communicate or share your likes and interests?

Many couples will often hold on to memories of when they first met and overlook how both people have changed. Feeling disconnected, more often than not, may mean you no longer want to hold on to the past.

Tips:

• Communicate your needs with your partner: It needs to be healthy. This talk can help you get on the same page as your partner. It’s better if you want to discuss with your partner that you want to break up in person than over text.
• Enforce boundaries: Both of you are human beings. You two also need to practice boundaries as needed.
• Get help: You may want to find a therapist who can help you work through what you’re feeling and equip you with tools to communicate better.

Wrapping Up

Breaking up is no joke. But finding the reality that you need to break up can be quite the process. Remember: life is a journey, and you will eventually get over this. If it’s the person of you, then you two will be together, growing positively.